FEMININITY

 FEMININITY

Femininity- refers to a set of qualities, behaviors, and roles traditionally associated with being female or womanly. 

Have you ever seen a little 2 year old suddenly giving a hair flip without even learning it from anyone? There are many intellectuals who speak against women being treated in a certain way and claim that this makes them weak. Weaker than the so-called superior gender. 

I may at times agree with them all, but today I’m not gonna discuss this as a social issue & how this might or may have already become a hurdle in women’s overall success in life. 

As a 30 year old beautiful woman, I’m gonna talk today about how we, the women, discover our feminine side at times and how you as a man love it when we are at our top notch feminine energy. 

How did it strike my mind? One fine day, when I had to acquire a different work location for a few days, I found myself  in Dilwalon ki Dilli (Cheesy I know), New Delhi, The capital of my beautiful country. Amidst all the hustle-bustle  of the city, a different office, some strange faces and complete impromptu plan, I had to (yes, had to) shop new clothes and as soon as I was done buying those cute office formals, I decided to go for some more and a li’l more “FEMININE CLOTHES”. 
“Ladkiyon wale kapde”

Pretty, flowy, floral dresses,

 in lots and lots of colours 

our never getting old, makes me one size smaller black 

super graceful, make me feel pure and pious white

mandir ready beautiful ethnic kurtis with mandatory jhumke (bought from janpath obvio)

And just don’t get me started on the accessories,

We could be jailed if hoarding them was a crime. 

A li’l pink pookie bow hair clip or those floral clutchers, 

& if you still breathe in this world then “labubu” 

Girls, I tell you. 

Guilty as charged, I did some shopping and now I just needed a place where I could wear all these to ! (if you know you know)

Having my friends living faaaaar faaaaar away (there aren’t any flights b/w DEL-GGN), I had to be my own date for the night.

Chose my favourite place, put on my favourite lipstick, added a li’l more blush(That pink thing around the cheeks, boys!), did my hair good and booked a not so clean cab with a really polite cab driver, 

But, don’t forget I was in Delhi, so were the long long queues of cars in traffic and amidst those cars, around a not at all clean place, a beautiful Flower shop.

Those li’l babies were looking at me, like I would look at my man in our 80s.

I hopped off, bought some lilies and rajnigandha (pure & pious) & BAM! I was in a cute, artsy, even more floral, beautiful cafe with angrezi gaane playing like they don’t know hindi here! 

The elite conversation with the staff and at a table for 1, there I was feeling like a woman, a feminine one. The avocado toasties or the lasagna to die for everything was all about what made me feel good.

 In a different city, amongst strangers, not thinking about the Long day when I walked among men dressed like them and competed with them everyday being compared if I was as efficient as a man would’ve been at the job, being grateful for the women who came before me and making way for those who will come after me.

Have you heard the phrase, The girly Girl !

But why did we need to add that 2nd “girl” word. Why only one wasn’t enough?

Why can girls just be like girls always and still be treated equally?

See this a very popular internet debate and I’m never up to be a part of it!

What I’m trying to convey here is, we women love to behave like one. Wear pretty clothes, put on beautiful makeup, hold flowers in our hands, visit cute cafes with nice music and wine and we love to be admired for the same as well, but is it possible for us to be in our full feminine energy?

Not always!

Not with unreal men!

I said what I said !

Men- my rather favourite topic are of many kinds (Be happy, I’m not saying the same.)

But if you are lucky enough, you come across a Gentleman at least once in life !

But why did we need to add that “gentle” word. Why only man wasn’t enough?

“Gentleman”could be in the form of your father, your brother/s or your eternal love, your life partner.

Do you remember, 

When papa lets everybody out of the car and goes a few more meters away to park the car, because he doesn’t want his beautiful wife wearing her new heels to end up in pain(inevitable though). 

That's the Gentle in the man. 

& when mumma still waits for him at the hotel entrance smiling ear to ear while wearing his favourite colour 

That's the girly in that girl.

I know what you’re thinking , ye sab hamare yha nahi hota!!!!

(This doesn’t happen in our home).

Trust me , hota hai! (It happens)

Maybe hidden from you, maybe once in a while, maybe in a minute form, or a full blown PDA (Public display of affection, guys!), it happens.

When he helps her to pick that big karahi from the top shelf, 

When she definitely can lift the grocery bag but waits for him to lift them all, 

When she is on her periods and he hands her the hot water bag or her favourite dark chocolate,

When she flaunts the kurta he chose for her in front of all her friends

When he walks on the busy side of the road, so that she could be on the safer side

When once the fast pacer girl, now walks slowly so he can be ahead of her, as a protector (she doesn’t need it if only it was a safer world though!)

When a complete extrovert outspoken girl starts using her baby voice whenever she needs another ice cream during their evening walk.

When she lets him take the lead and open doors for her at times.

When she lets him pay for her food for the first time and he does a li’l happy dance thinking she likes him back.

She completely truly feels to be a woman, a girly girl when the world just lets her be one!

When she feels safe that this “Gentleman” won’t break her heart in between the journey,, won’t judge her for not paying for dates. When he won’t teach her how she’s not allowed to be kiddish in public and talk loudly and the list goes on and on !!!! 

I don’t think I’d ever be sharing those sad instances here. 

I just hope that all of us are born to A Gentlemen, we marry A Gentlemen and  most importantly raise one such Gentleman who makes all the beautiful women around him channelise  their feminine energy, act like a lady and just be The “Girly” Girl.

& untill we are not, let’s buy flowers for ourselves, put on our favourite makeup, wear that li’l pink dress and order your favourite wine and sip it like nobody’s watching or like everybody’s watching!

YOU GO GIRL!

P.S. Even if you want to buy that “LABUBU”  then again, your money, your opinion!